Tuesday, 17 November 2015

Did you have sex last night?

I found out today that all Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority (HFEA) licensed clinics have to offer you the opportunity to talk to a counsellor. Apparently this doesn't happen anywhere else within the NHS.  At fertility clinic it is a legal requirement.  Obviously other services have counsellors, but they don't have to provide them.

I went to see my clinics counsellor today, for the first time.  She was as mad as a box of frogs.  I think I'm going to like her.  We basically talked about what her role is, how she can help me (and/or us) and what we were going to do over the next sessions.  She explained that I was in the middle of a crisis event in my life.  She was honest, and she swore a bit.  She helped set the clinic up, and her knowledge is vast.  We are going to be working on coping mechanisms and she says she will nag.

I probably shouldn't quote her without asking but her thoughts on IUI are that "it's a bit shit".  It's good for getting to know us, us getting to know them, and also to see how I respond to the drugs.  It clearly has it's place, I trust that our Dr wouldn't have put us through it without good reason, but I'm not holding out much hope for this cycle.  IVF is the best treatment.

One thing I don't think she would mind me quoting her on is her suggestion for how to deal with the age old question...."You got any kids?"   Respond with "Did you have sex last night? What position did you use? Did you cum?....don't ask me personal questions, I won't ask you them!"


OK. Maybe don't actually say it to them out loud.  Just in your head.  Guarantee you'll walk away with a smile on your face!